See These Folks? They are the folks I strive to protect my daughter from.

See these men smiling at your screen. They look so friendly.  They look like they want to spread the good word. They are the upstanding members of their community.  After all, they're the head of their church, Appleby Baptist Church in Nacogdoches, TX   They spread all kinds of things.   They spread hate and misogyny. I read this article, and I know most will dismiss it as some left leaning dribble attacking all things right in this country, mostly white people, god, and the Bible.  I make no delusion that these people are already probably people I wouldn't agree with, even if they weren't racist and misogynistic   I'm an atheist.  I made the mistake of going to their site, and yes these men are racist, support racist views, and have a congregation full of racists.   They have "articles" on their site explaining their stances on certain things.   

Their article,  "Interracial Marriages in Light of the Scripture", is everything that ever made me question the church.   At it's best, this "article" is ignorant; at worst, it's downright hateful.  

I thought a whore was a person who exchanged sex for money.  Maybe, I was wrong.  Having sex does not make one a whore.  Whores are people who pass up collection plates, in exchange for their salvation, and the people who are instructing them to do so are pimps.   So if we want to talk whores....we need to look at the church.   OK maybe I'm harsh, and the church isn't a bunch of whores, but there certainly are people there with venal traits.  

You're also an adulterer if you divorce and have the audacity to remarry.  My grandmother was an adulterer.  How dare she get married, leave her abusive husband, and find love in a man who helped raise her sons, and then became my grandfather.  There are a whole bunch of Christian adulterers in this world as well.   

We also know that there are three distinct races because God wanted it that way.

So all three races came from one person.  How did that happen without race mixing?   Also if all black people are cursed and their punishment was servitude, how can they repent?  Why are black people being punished for something someone did six thousand years ago?  These same people would be the first to bitch and moan about black people talking about slavery and segregation, and how they are not responsible of the sins of their parents and grandparents over forty years ago.  Their logic is, I must be punished for something that happened SIX THOUSAND years ago, but I can't be mad about some ignorant shit that happened FORTY years ago?  Yeah.  That's a logic fail folks, and for the record, the world is older than six thousand years old, and people did not ride on the backs of dinosaurs.   Seriously.   Their science is flawed, to be Jewish is a religion, not a race.   Race from a scientific standpoint does not exist.  

Did you know my marriage is based upon lust and is a tool of Satan?  Rock on!!!!! I feel all devil worship like. Lust is color blind, and god knows after 14 years together, the relationship is purely based upon sex and has no other redeeming qualities.   I can't wait until we're 70 and the lust is still going strong.  Saggy boobs and balls, are straight up HAWT.   

God is a divider not a uniter.   God in their eyes is like Hitler.   Also in this same article as they discuss why race mixing is wrong, these folks mention that God gives permission to marry a "captive", so really you can marry a slave, and since slaves are in these folks mind, black, it's perfectly fine.   Again, logic fail.   Their own Bible is full of contradictions.  

Also to note about thouroughbreads and dog breeds. Most dog breeds were created by man using selective breeding.  God didn't make Doberman Pinschers.  Karl Friedrich Louis Doberman did.  

At least they admit God is a divider.   God seems like an asshole in Genesis and Deuteronomy.   I wonder how many of these folks are at the local fish fry on the weekends eating shrimp and crawfish?   I bet you they all don't follow the Bible as closely as they think, and these people here like to use to the King James Version. That Bible was made in the 1600s and named after a man who did witch hunts and apparently liked both men and women.  

If you find this stuff not so racist and need further help to prove their racism, we have "Baptist Preachers and Nigger Jokes."  I'm not making this up.

We don't all run around using the n word, but that's not really the point. I also like the loving Christian way in which he says "I am not going to avoid the Scriptures in order to have a NEGRO IN OUR CONGREGATION"

God forbid negroes come to your church, like they really want to.  

These people and their church are absolutely lovely.  Their views on women have warmed my heart as well. As a woman you can't preach, and you better dress modestly, so don't accessorize, God doesn't like it.   

I joke about these people, and I find them ignorant, but I also find them scary.  These people vote.  These people really believe this nonsense.  These are the types that are pushing creationism in school, these are the people trying to feign concern about my child being biracial, but really it's just their hatred of the fact that my husband and I don't subscribe to their hypocritical nonsense.   These are the people are who are going to make life hard for my daughter, so these people are the ones I'm not going to tolerate.  In the past, I tolerated them because I didn't know any better, when folks like these approached me, and they did, they did do one thing that probably scares them, they made me think, they made me question the Bible  and question religion, and for that I'm thankful, but I know not everyone does that, and that is what makes me sad about all of this nonsense.  

If you want to read more about what these people have to offer in logic and flat out wrong science, here is a link to their articles.  

Oh Suzy, I'm So Sorry You Suffer Because of Diversity

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The internet is abuzz about little Suzy Lee Weiss and her oped piece in the Wall Street Journal.  To sum it up poor Suzy is upset that she didn't get into the colleges of her choice, and it's all because of that ugly diversity.    I'm sorry that diversity offends Suzy.  I'm sorry that a spoiled over privileged white child didn't get what she wanted, and as a result of her oppression was able to broadcast her frustration in a satire released on a national platform.

I'm sorry you look at diversity and fail to ignore legacy. Maybe your parents should have been rich so that they could buy your entrance to Yale or Harvard.  Maybe they should have went to these schools themselves and donated a whole bunch of money.   It's not my fault they didn't do that.  I'm so sorry that snazzy prep school you went to had a piss poor guidance counselor who informed you to "just be yourself".  As someone who is "diverse", being a black female, I was never told that.  Instead I was told that as a black person and a woman  had two strikes against me, and I had to study harder and longer, just to get the scraps of your entitled upbringing.  My parents didn't buy my way into college either.  I instead just studied hard, and worked full time, and went to a ::gasp:: STATE SCHOOL.  I know it's so hard to struggle to be a white woman in America, not only do you get access to using white privilege, you also get protection under the law with Title VII.  Poor Suzy.   I'm so sorry your uncomplicated life now has a speed bump.

So Suzy, your article was just satire.  It was satire insensitive to anything other than your selfish, entitled life. It was rude, it was immature, and again the fact it was published in the Wall Street Journal tells me exactly how hard life will be for you, as it's obvious, even with your little oppressed self, your family had connections to someone who could give you a national platform to piss and moan about how hard life is.  It tells me that your socioeconomic level and sheltered life has inhibited your ability to show empathy for a poor kid who didn't get all the opportunities you had, and probably won't ever get into community college, no matter how smart they are.

You can suck it, Suzy Lee.

Beating The Hell Out Of Your Children Does Not Make You A Good Parent

This week, I came across this video. The scenario is that this man is “disciplining” his daughters because they were caught making a “twerking”. He is beating them with a cable wire.  He is causing welts and open wounds.   It should be considered abuse, but instead it’s being celebrated.  A slave mentality is way too prevalent in our culture, in particular black culture.

I see people celebrating this man as a good father.   People comparing this beating to the spankings and/or whoopings of their past.   They are looking at him as a hero, as a person helping us “fix” the black community and the black youth.   The only obvious next step for these children is prostitution, and this beating will prevent them from running the streets.  

I call bullshit.  This man is physically and verbally abusing his kids.  He is calling them motherfuckers.  Who calls their kid a motherfucker? He is swinging uncontrolled, and he is spanking out of anger and frustration.   We all know that even if you do spank, you are supposed to do it when you aren't mad and have calmed down.  

Let me preface this by letting you all know I was spanked.  I was spanked with belts, with switches, and at times with electrical cords.  I was all pro corporal punishment. Every year when the school sent the form to my parents asking permission for me to get spanked in school, my parents dutifully checked “yes” and signed.   Do I think I was abused? No.  Was I actually abused?  That’s questionable.  Am I mad at my parents?  No, they did what they knew, and I know that they didn’t feel they were abusing me and wouldn’t purposely harm me.   Is this what I plan to do my child?  No.  As Maya Angelou said, “I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.”  I discipline my child in other ways.  I don’t have to scream or yell.  Sitting her in a chair and saying sit still for three minutes makes her feel as if she is  being tortured.   She’s three, it works, and she learns.  I’ll continue to do it until it stops working, and then I’ll go to something else.   To be honest, I can only remember about one or two things that caused me to get spanked, the rest is I guess only going to come out in the form of repressed memories in my future therapy visit.  

Now for all of those celebrating that this is what the black community needs to save our youth, I ask you this:  If you saw a man beating the hell out of his wife with a cable in the street, would you find this acceptable?  If he was doing it to another man, would this be ok?   I’m pretty much figuring your answer is no.   Here are the facts, the black community should have been straightened out a long time ago.   Per this article, studies indicate 89% of African Americans use some type of physical punishment as discipline.   It isn’t all the 11% causing the problems that plague our community.  Black people have been using corporal punishment forever, a spanking is not why your kid finishes college.  It isn’t why your kid gets good grades.  Parenting does not begin and end with spankings.   If you feel the only way to discipline your child is to spank them, then things gotta change, and a parenting class is in order.   

For those concerned about a positive black male being taken away from his children, what exactly is positive about an abuser?  He abused them, all he taught them was a man can beat the hell out of them when they do something they don't like   Domestic violence isn't positive.  No man in the home is better than a man who is going to beat the hell out of them and call them motherfucker.  

We need to look at why we think violence is the only way to “fix” our kids.  Let’s face it, if your kid is doing a twerk video, the discipline should have occurred before that even happened. That means there was a disconnect between you and your kid to begin with. If they are sneaking out, again that is a failure to communicate with your child effectively.   If your child is in the principal's office, there were already issues.  

Violence was how a slave master “corrected” his slave, why do you want the same for your kids?   I want better than what I had for my kids.  Just because I was spanked, doesn't mean that it’s what is best for my kid.  Heck, it might not be what’s best for most kids.  Studies indicate that corporal punishment does not fix or make children compliant.  There is no proof that corporal punishment is an effective means of long term behavior modification in children.  

I don’t want to be my child’s friend, but I also don’t want them to fear me either.  I want to be respected, and respect is earned, even for us parents.   

So the verdict from the Steubenville trial has come in.   The two kids are found guilty.   Was justice served?  No.  Am I happy these boys are going to jail?  No.   Why should I be happy that these young men are going to jail?    They are victims too.   Yeah I said it.  This is why is say it:

We live in a rape culture.  We live in the age of social media. Those boys, no matter how depraved their actions were, thought they didn't do anything wrong.  They didn't "penetrate" her, they put a finger in.  They took off her clothes.  She was drunk.   In their minds this is ok, because in society's mind, the first thing they think is "Why was she out late at night, getting so drunk?".  How else could they act if that is the prevailing mindset?  

Until we teach our children, both boys and girls, that rape is not the fault of the victim, this type of thing will continue ALL over the world, every single day.   I know people are still thinking that it's absurd that Zerlina Maxwell feels that instead of telling women how to dress or act in public, we should focus on teaching boys not to rape.  If they don't understand that rape isn't always some man in the dark alley jumping out and forcing himself on an unsuspecting woman, how do they know?   We put everything else in "shades of grey", why not rape?    

I also found it insane the amount of people granted "immunity".  They witnessed this violation of this girl and did nothing.  Nothing at all.  Why are they not going to jail?  Who served all these underage kids alcohol? Why are they not being charged with a crime?   There were several factors here that play into the mentality of why these boys thought what they did was ok, and we aren't all looking at those, we are instead celebrating that two lives are now ruined, as there names have been released and they will forever be known as "rapists".  That brings me to my next point, social media.

These kids didn't actually film the assault. There is no actual tape, only someone saying they recorded it with their phone and deleted it.  They bragged about it and posted their "brags" online.  They also took pictures of her naked and posted those up. Lots of kids (not just the accused) made some awful tweets.  People talked about it while it was happening and did nothing. Reading the story in and of itself is horrible, but now we have documentation of it, and now we have facebook and the internet to play judge, jury, and executioner.  Could these boys have a "fair" trial if everyone and their mother is seeing the evidence and not hearing all the facts?   I've been on facebook all morning and I have seen not one, but several people indicate that these boys recorded the actual assault and this rape was an open and shut case.    They didn't, they did however discuss it, sent texts about it, and put up a video about their exploits online.   This was stupid.   However, the influence of social media has replaced the mantra of "innocent until proven guilty", what if the defense was able to prove their idea, that the victim posed for the pictures, but yet there is now major outside influence that believes differently.  Does they judge even have a choice in how he rules for fear of retribution?  Will anonymous hack the judge's files and expose them to the public?  Will we ever go back to the mantra of "innocent before proven guilty" or does media get to dictate all of our fates in a courtroom?

Another thing I want to discuss is our prison culture.  I've seen more than one person say they hoped these boys get raped in jail.   How does that alleviate the current rape culture we have now? How does it fix it?   How does keeping them in prison until they die make for great justice, when in fact that are a victim of our rape culture as well?   If putting them behind bars and ruining their lives by not only releasing their names to the public, but not granting them forgiveness, is why we have the recidivism rate we have now.   They are now labeled sex offenders. This will influence where they live and their ability to work for the rest of their lives.  A simple google search of their names during a routine background check will ruin them. Something they did at 16 or 17 will affect their lives at 44.  How can I be happy about that?   

For some reason, it's been assumed that if you have any type of empathy for the wasted futures of these two boys, you have no empathy for the victim. I have more empathy for the victim than I ever could for these two boys, but I understand that their families are suffering too, it makes sense their family is crying and is sad that their child is going to jail and to think they wouldn't cry to me is amazing.  That these kids just got hit with reality, and it's ugly, and it's that their futures are gone.   

Dear Mr. Nugent

Dear Mr. Nugent,

I'm so sorry you're having a hard time with the re-election of Barack Obama.  It seems a lot of people are. I've seen your tweets from the last day or so, and I'm sorry you're all upset, but to be honest I'm happy as hell.   I'm full of glee, and I extremely happy with the results of the Presidential election.   I guess I'm going to clear up a few misconceptions that you and others seem to have about those of us who support and who respect our current President.

Number One:   I'm not varmin.  I don't believe in paying for others obesity or cell phones.  I do however feel it is my duty to help those who are unable to help themselves due to disability or inability to find a job.  I also don't think their offspring should starve to death, even if their parents are lazy leeches of society.  I know that many people feel that there are organizations or churches that can help these people, but unfortunately these organizations and churches suffer when the rest of the economy suffers and cannot always fulfill the needs of those struggling, and many of these organizations and churches rely heavily on federal aid and grants in order to function in even the best of circumstances.   I wish more people had unlimited sources to help others, but unfortunately we don't always have that.   I don't believe others should pay for my birth control or abortions either.   What I do believe is that if an insurance company can cover Viagra and penile implants, they should be able to cover birth control.  I also believe that abortion should be up to the individual and that the government has no room in determining what I do with my body.

That first point was kind of long winded, and I'm sure the other points will be too, but does my explanation seem all that far fetched at this point? I certainly hope not.

Number Two:  I do not believe that the hardest workers are providing for the non workers. You seem to equate poverty with laziness.  As a person who is one generation removed from poverty, I do not agree.  My grandparents were poor, but they worked hard. My grandfather always had a job, and my grandmother at times had multiple jobs to make ends meet.   My grandfather attempted to work in the construction and drafting field way into his late seventies and early eighties, and even after he quit working construction, he became a crossing guard.  I've seen the poor, and most of them are working. They aren't all leeching off the government, waiting for handouts.  Sometimes they get laid off. Sometimes people can't find much in way of a job due to economic conditions, lack of an education, or many other factors.  Sometimes people get sick and reach their lifetime limit on their insurance, and can no longer pay their medical bills.   Did you know one of the biggest reasons for bankruptcy in this country is due medical costs?  It's expensive to get sick in America, and sometimes even the hardest worker gets sick.   For the record, I've never had public assistance.  I have however attended public schools, driven on public roads, used public libraries, and enjoyed various government funded parks and beaches, so I can't say I'm completely self reliant.  I know several rich people who are rich because they have had the opportunity to have some wonderful, hard working, intelligent people working for them.  I've known rich folks who are rich simply because of being born rich. Not saying that rich people in general don't work hard, it's just that wealth doesn't always mean hard work.

Number Three:  I'm not sure which justices of the Supreme Court you are referring to, but I'm pretty sure all of them are lawyers, and that all of them took Constitutional Law and know ALL about the Constitution, probably more than you and I ever could.   I will however say this, the beauty of our Constitution is this, it's a fairly short document compared to other countries, and it seems open to change.  It seems our Founding Fathers were super smart and realized what was the norm for their times, wouldn't always be forever. It means we can amend the Constitution.  The amendments are great.  They allow women and minorities to vote.   They allow us free speech.  They allow us the right to bear arms.  I know you're into hunting, I know you love that one, right?

Number Four:  I'm not a pimp whore or welfare brat, but I might be a soulless supporter.   I support welfare brats because I do not believe a 2 year child living in the projects is worth less than a 2 year old child living in the suburbs.  I imagine they need the same amount of care, love, food, and clothing, and that just because one kid has a harder time getting these things than the other, doesn't mean they are less deserving.  In terms of pimps and whores, I think they're doing ok without my help, or so I think, I'm not familiar with what is going on in that world, I just hope there aren't a bunch of young women and men, girls and boys getting sexually exploited, and I hope our fine police departments take care of the pimps.  I'm not quit sure when voting democratic meant supporting pimp whores, but I just felt I needed to address that issue.


Now that I've kind of cleared all those things up, let me tell you why I voted for Barack Obama and vote democratic in general.

Number One: I used to work in the insurance industry.  I think our insurance industry is flawed.   I don't think it should be ok to deny kids with cancer. I don't think that treatments that are accepted by the medical establishment should still be considered experimental by the insurance industry.  I don't think that if you get sick, you should have to worry about determining whether to pay your mortgage or your medical bills. I think the Affordable Care Act tries to fix that. To me it isn't about birth control. I've been paying out of pocket for that for years,  but I'm also grateful that my husband and I have the means to cover what insurance won't.   I know not everybody can and does.

Number Two:  Our economy is in shambles.  It has been since before he was in office. It took a long time for our economy to get to this point, it's going to take a long time for it get back. This is the biggest recession since the Great Depression.   This time we have fared better because we now have safety nets in place to make sure people can feed their families and get housing to help them survive until they get back on their feet.   I think the American Recovery and Reinvestment Act was a great start, but I feel that the Republican controlled Senate was so focused on making our President a one term President, they forgot they were there for the people, not for some type of revenge.   I think that if the President had gotten more cooperation, things would be even better, and yes things have gotten better the last four years.   He's cut prescription costs for medicare patients fifty percent.  More private sector jobs were created in 2010 than in ALL of the 8 years Bush was in office.   He pretty much saved the American automotive industry.  I know this might not sound like much, but it seems pretty big to me.  I think he is on the right track, and I think we're going to get out of this big huge mess sooner rather than later.  I also don't believe in trickle down aka supply side economics. The Bush tax cuts hurt our economy, at least according to at least ten Nobel prize laureates.

Number Three:  I have no problem with gay people wanting to get married. I have no problem with gay people getting insurance benefits for their spouses, or the rights to the property of their spouses if they should die.   I mean why do I care?   It does not diminish my marriage at all.   I still love my husband and he still loves me, regardless if two guys have the same rights I do.   For some reason the conservative movement doesn't feel the same way I do.   I believe that equality and diversity are not the downfall of our country, but the thing that makes us distinctly unique.

Number Four:  States rights, I wish I could be a supporter of states rights.  I really do, but my familiarity with states rights and their history turn me off of states rights.  States rights in the past have essentially been a way for the majority to take rights away from others. Did you know in my state, it was illegal for my husband and I to be married until the federal government stepped in?  It was also illegal for blacks to vote.  We also had segregation and slavery.  All of these things were protected and defended under the guise of states rights.   If states rights were about the community knowing what's best itself, how were banning sodomy, interracial marriage, or allowing who groups of people to be oppressed good for the community?  If states rights in our history have been used in deplorable ways.   Is the majority always right?  Should the majority exploit and oppress the minority?

Number Five:  I do not think America should ever become a theocracy.  This might to many be "God's Country", but our Constitution tells us we have religious freedom and this country was founded on religious freedom.  Didn't the Pilgrims come here to escape religious prosecution? So if you are a Christian, a Muslim, a Hindi, a Jew, or an Atheist, you should have the same rights as everyone else.   The current conservative movement seems very intent on making sure we are all Christian, the problem is, we are not.

Now I know this is long winded, but does it help you understand my position more?    Does it make you realize I'm not varmin. I'm not lazy, and that indeed I might even agree with you on same things (not politics), but that we are ALL Americans, and no matter who is in office, we should try to get along and refrain the the hatred and name calling?  I'm guilty of it myself, but I'm just tired of it all, and I hope that maybe you get the candidate of your choice in 2016, ok maybe not, but at least I hope you know that all of us Democrats are not evil people.

Paul Ryan Had A Black Girlfriend, Take That You Race Baiting Liberals? What?!?!?!?!?!? Wait A Minute........

Well we've learned that Paul Ryan had a black girlfriend in college. That proves he's not a racist, right? The "evil liberals" always throw around the "race card" when it comes to Republicans. Ryan can't be racist, he had a black ex girlfriend. Well, yes he could be. I'm not saying Ryan is a racist, let's not go crazy. I'm just saying he is not some color blind lover of all races and pro equality. You know who else was down with the swirl? Strom Thurmond. He was also pro-segregation. Yes he boned a black woman. He might have even actually liked her, or even loved her, but that doesn't excuse him as some bastion of racial equality. I've dated white guys who were racist. They didn't think they were racist, but they said racist things and saw me as the exception. I've met many white people who thought I was the exception and some magical negro. I was some exception to all the negative stereotypes that infiltrate their minds when they think of black people. The fact that this even mentioned in the media proves that race and racism still matters in 2012.

The Good Pastor Creflo Dollar Wrongly Jailed Because Of His Fast Ass Daughter

I'm sure you've all heard about the infamous Creflo Dollar incident. It has shocked the black community, and as usual in our community Pastor Dollar has his defenders who portray him as a victim, and his daughter is now disrespectful, horrible, fast person who has done the good old Pastor Dollar wrong.

I don't know if you guys have read the incident report. This man choked his daughter and then beat her down to the ground in the kitchen. People are saying this is an example of government getting involved and showing parents they can't discipline their child. If you think choking your kid is discipline, then you can't be helped.

I'm tired of black folks running around once again making the attacker the victim and the victim the attacker. Let's put it this way. The good old Pastor Dollar raised this girl, so if the girl he attacked was disrespectful, then it's his fault, he raised her that way. If she asked to go to a party and was told no, and then got upset about it, more than likely she probably isn't as disrespectful as you think, because as a teen I knew many kids who were told no they couldn't go somewhere, didn't say a word to their parents, and then snuck their tricky asses out of the house to do what their parents had just told them NOT to do. She asked to go, she didn't just go. Even if she was disrespectful, you don't CHOKE your child. I get it, you pay the bills, you feed and cloth them, and they still have attitude and have no clue how much you do for them. Welcome to the world of a teenager, they are self centered, they are hormonal, and they think they are special snowflakes who have idiots as parents who they think don't know jack shit. If you get angry at the thought of paying bills and raising your child, and think that choking is a legitimate way to discipline your child, then you probably shouldn't have kids. I get it, parenting is frustrating, but choking your child is unacceptable, even when the good old Pastor Dollar does it, and the reaction to this news shouldn't be to rally round him coddle him and vilify his daughter, but instead we need to be outraged that this man choked his child and wonder when in the hell he plans to apologize to his family and to his congregation for doing such a horrible thing.

Another thing the black community needs to do is let go of the PTSD of slavery and quit thinking a "smackdown" will solve all problems. It doesn't. Sometimes it just makes kids more violent. Sometimes your kids end up giving you the smackdown. Look at other ways of disciplining your kid and don't do something just because that was what was done to you.