OK I am going to be blunt and honest. I have never ever had sex with a black guy. I have barely even kissed a black guy. I have kissed a Hispanic guy, fooled around with a Hispanic guy. I kissed an Eurasian guy once. But every single person I have ever had sex with has been white, which is just my husband because I was a virgin before I was married at age 27 ::wink::
Is that bad? I have dated white, Hispanic, black, and Asian guys, but only been intimate with white guys(I mean my husband, as I said I was a virgin).
I don't know why that is. Am I sexually more attracted to white guys (my husband) than other races of guys? Is it because of where I grew up, where often I was the only minority within a ten mile radius. Is it because my first grade school boyfriend was a red headed boy named Charlie, or the next door neighbor Brian who I used to make out with at age 5, and who showed me his wee wee after he ran away from home as my parents opened the door to my room to see what I was doing. His parents and mine were scared, we even got banned from each others houses to keep from kissing each other like the people in soap operas did. But we couldn't keep our hands off each other!!!! I don't know why that is. Maybe he is the reason I like dark haired guys with light eyes. He had the darkest hair, palest skin, and bluest eyes I had ever seen. I did date Marcus in preschool we were pretty serious for about 3 days, and he was black, but aside from that, all my real "relationships" beyond dating have been with white guys (my husband).
Is there a rationale for my preferences? Am I racist?
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No, I don't think there is a problem or that you are racist. People are attracted to whoever they are attacted to. I have dated only 1 black guy in my 34-years. He was a great guy, but the whole relationship was not going to workout for various reasons I don't want to get into.
After that, I dated white guys mostly, but an Asian guy (who broke my heart :( ) and hispanic guys. My first time was also with a white guy. Never really thought about it, along the race lines though...It just happened that way.
However, for BW who just date BM, no one says anything about that! It is just assumed that is how it is supposed to be. However, when a BW dates non-black men, people will say she has issues or something. I find that thinking utterly silly!!
It is just, I think, human nature to be more attracted to what you are familiar with or interested in. It happens with other aspects in life (movies, music, books...). Nothing wrong with it!!
I really hope I am not racist. But in terms of books ,music, or anything else me and every guy I have dated have been different. There is one guy who I never dated but who kept asking me out who was a staunch republican cowboy who listened to Johnny Paycheck and Johnny Cash exclusively. It kind of freaked me out. He was a nice guy, just not the type that you would think would be into black girls. I never went out with him, but who knows if he was really sincere or not.
Racist? No. Hilarious? Yes.
"Is it because my first grade school boyfriend was a red headed boy named Charlie, or the next door neighbor Brian who I used to make out with at age 5, and who showed me his wee wee after he ran away from home as my parents opened the door to my room to see what I was doing."
Oh, Lordy Lordy! LOL!! I cannot believe you just said that. That's hilarious.
But to answer your question, I don't think that makes you a racist. Some women like black guys. Some women like white guys. Some women like Asian guys.
People just have preferences, and that doesn't make them racist for having those preferences.
Wow, the above comment was so unnessary for so many reasons. Futhermore, most people in this country have a weight problem so don't make it out to be a black woman's problem.
Siddity, wipe this fools comments right off your chest.
Well it sounds like you were a product of your environment. If you grew up around whites you are bound to be involved with them. Nothing wrong with that
The only pictures posted are what you see at the side sweetie. Face shots. You determined fatness from that? Wow. Anyway since you don't like dark skinned fat women anyway, why are you upset? I personally think you are just an angry little troll that is dateless and alone on a Saturday night. But that is just IMO.
I don't make a habit of deleting posts, but I will for blackpride. He is calling me fat based upon head shots and shoulder shots on my natural hair care site. He is hanging out on a blog of a woman he claims he doesn't want, but yet keeps posting. I am done. He stuff is deleted.
Sangreth,
I won't even tell you what I did with Cody in 5th grade
"I won't even tell you what I did with Cody in 5th grade"
You must have been an early bloomer. LOL.
By the way, Siditty, don't worry about what that troll said. From what I can tell from your picture, you look damn good... even though you're a democrat. ;) (Just kidding about the democrat comment. lol)
It involved tackle football. My father made me quit playing immediately. I can honestly say I was a very good girl from middle school through high school. If I stayed on the track I was on I would have been a hooker on the streets by 6th grade.
LOL Thanks for your compliment. Even for a democrat I look ok that is good :) I know I am trollish, I just didn't think my ugliness was the topic of discussion.
"t involved tackle football. My father made me quit playing immediately. "
I'm almost afraid to ask. But what's wrong with tackle football? Was your dad afraid you would grow up to be a tomboy or something?
Cody had a habit of groping as he tackled. Like all the time. and no matter how many people would play, I always got tackled by Cody. The same thing happened when we played war. I always got tackled and groped by him. There was no tackling in war, unless I played with Cody. There was also some straight up dry humping during the tackles, I wasn't quite sure what to make of that, or exactly what it was. I don't think he did either.
All I want to know is where is Cody now? Because he seriously was a horn dog at an early age! LOL Either that or he was sneaking in the bedroom and watchin' his parents.
LMAO....
LOL I don't know where Cody is now. Where ever it is, I hope he is getting his groove on. That boy was a horn dog!!!!! He is why I had to quit playing football. I think my dad caught on way before me.
Hey Siditty!
This totally does not make you a racist. Some just won't allow you to have a preferrence, but if your realistic, you know that you and many others have preference in men, ice cream, etc
You've had sex with one person. I don't think that's a large enough sample size. I am hella picky. I've slept with three guys, all white. The kind of black men I am attracted to tend to be the kind of men that everyone and their mother wants.
The guys I've slept with aren't my ideals. I like the extra smart, preppy guys and I haven't found one.
Ana I was being a bit facetious with the number of white men I have slept with. Although I claim to be a virgin when I got married at 27, I will say it was nearly a decade earlier when I uuuhhhmmmm kind of lost my virginity :) When I say kind of, I straight up did lose my virginity.
well. if you didn't grow up around good lookin' black boys that claimed your interest....you're not racist haha
I wasn't born yesterday, and I can tell you your situation isn't all that rare. You need to stop worrying about it.
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