OK You guys this is post number 300. Yay for me, I have way too much time on my hands. Congrats I talk and ramble way too much!!!! YAY!!! For the celebration I will post this pic of Gerard Butler, the IR blogosphere's favorite guy from the movie 300. Isn't that cute!!!
On to other things. I usually don't cross post from the hair blog to here, but this really cracked me up.
On to another topic. Have you guys ever had a friend you had to just leave alone as you realized they can't be helped and they are just going to drag you down in their warped path of destruction? I have a real life non cyber friend (crazy I know) and I have known her for over five years. She has always been a crazy girl, but I never realized how crazy until recently. I have a friend like this. She is a girl who has had a hard time over the years, but she is still holding on to really self destructive behavior. So she has a slight habit of meeting guys off of match.com for dates and ends up sleeping with the majority of them on the first date. I explained to her this is not very helpful in forming a real relationship and that she should call me if she has the urge to sleep with men she claims she isn't even sexually attracted to them. She continued to sleep with folks. In the past year she has slept with two married men, one twice. In her defense the first one she didn't know he was married, but the second one, who she slept with twice she did know was married, but the excuse was, "he chased after me" and she had too much Petron.
I came to the conclusion that I could not help her due to her behavior on myspace. For a long time my man also had a myspace page, that he never maintained. I told him he needed more friends and asked her could I add her to his page, she said yes. I send her a request under his name. She then starts talking to me about one of the men on my page who requested to be her friend. She talks about how hot he is and how she is going to ask him out. It was my husband, I explained this to her and she said I needed to control my man. Mind you I had told her the deal. He got rid of his myspace page, and I told her to review his profile as it did say he was married and I was his #1 friend.
The next incident involved my ex boyfriend (yes my husband knows about him being on my myspace page, my husband actually has my log in and password to check up on me if needed), yes he is single and she is single, but do not go man trolling on my myspace page!!!!!! She starts talking to him after I show her his page. He messages me and asks me what is this girls deal? I tell him I have no clue, and he tells me she seems nice, but she isn't his type. He is definitely into black girls, and this girl is white as the driven snow. As a girl, why would you want your friend's left overs, and why would you be going on her myspace page to pick out potential dates. She was upset that a lot of the guys on my myspace page were gay. I can't have all the men on my page be ex's, that would be weird. Hello!!!!!
To me that is shady behavior, but maybe that is just me?
18 comments:
Drop that woman like a hot potato.
Seriously, why are you still friends with her? That kind of woman will hunt your husband down. I know the type. You are really playing with fire.
I'm gonna tell you like it is:
Dat bitch crazy, dump her ass!!! She need to see Mr. Goodbar. Richard Gere was hot but he sliced Diane Keaton ass like some deli meat. And that shit was based on a true story. On a serious tip, she's playing with fire, and you might get burned.
I'm telling you I had a friend from college and she did some wacked out shit.
During my sophmore year, I was roommates with my best friend Tiff, and the crazy girl was roommates with another best friend of mine Andell. Well, I think we were joking around during dinner and she didn't like the joke too much so she stormed off. We were all like ok, whatever and just kept chilling. We all went to our rooms to do homework (well in my case to watch TV).
Later on that night, Andell comes to our room with this weird look on her face like she was scared shitless. Now Andell is the most pragmatic person, she is totally no drama, so if she's scared, it really is the end of the world. Well, she told us how she was doing her homework and then she was watching tv, when she heard movement coming from the closet. She didn't think it was anything so she ignored it and continued to watch tv. After another half hour passed, she heard the closet door begin to slide open and she screamed and jumped when Crazy Girl came out of the closet.
Me and my roommate Tiff were on the floor crying, WTF!!! Who hides in the closet for over an hour??? I mean was she trying to make us feel guilty by hiding in a closet when we're all the way on the other side of the dorm? Crazy Heifer!!!
Yeah, I know what it's like to have a crazy ass friend. You put them on ignore and lose their number fast. They'll only give you a headache and a heartache.
Were we friends with the same person?
I had to learn you have to let people like that go. They will alway be unhappy/batshit crazy (as Roslyn says).
I've been where you are; when I entered into a stable relationship, I had a friend who would go on and on and on about how she couldn't get a man, no one loved her, blah, blah. Again, batshit crazy, had to cut her loose.
I think your ex-friend wanted a little of what you had and would use your leftovers to get it.
Congrats on your 300th post!
Well Siditty,
I agree your friend has some issues and you're probably better off not being friends with her. That said I don't think she is out of line "man-hunting" on your myspace page. I mean, you're married woman so why would any of your friends think you have some vestigial proprietary rights over any guy on your page? And referring to people as "leftovers" is in very bad taste. It's not like they became less of a person because things didn't work out between you. If I were friends with an ex and he referred to me that way that would be the end of our friendship.
Grata:
I am keeping my distance, I just find it weird she is using my page as her own dating site.
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Minoritygirl:
LOL @ Dat bitch crazy, dump her ass!!! She need to see Mr. Goodbar
And why was that girl all in the closet? That is straight up crazy, hiding in the closet like she is on the hunt. That is not cute.
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Were we friends with the same person?
At least I am not the only one who ends up befriending crazy folks.
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. That said I don't think she is out of line "man-hunting" on your myspace page. I mean, you're married woman so why would any of your friends think you have some vestigial proprietary rights over any guy on your page?
Uuuhhhhmmm she was manhunting my damn husband, I think I have a say in that, and when my friends get inappropriate messages and come to me asking what the hell is wrong with her, it becomes my business. She was not appropriate at all with him. She was straight up vulgar. Not to mention I have always had a thing I don't mess with my friends exes. Maybe I am crazy, but I don't want to date people who have dated my friends. I have never ran after anyone I knew my friend dated, that is kind of gross, but that is just me.
In terms of my ex being referred to as leftovers, me and him have that relationship. I can say stuff to him like that, in matter of fact when we discussed the situation I did refer to him as leftovers, he thought it was weird too, but like I said he knows me and he knows how I talk to people when I know them really well. I think that is one reason I get along with guys, I can talk crazy they just laugh it off and don't take it personal. I talk crazy about them and myself, and they know it is in good humor and jest. This guy has known me over 10 years, he understands me pretty well I think the friendship is going strong still.
I'm co-signing your statement on not dating the ex of a friend.
Just a bad idea all around.
Well Siditty,
Those are some pertinent details that were not in the blog post. You said she seemed like a nice girl so it would be hard to get the impression she was sending inappropriate messages. And I um never said it was ok for her to try to pick up your husband or even implied that.
Lastly, the thought of my friends dating my exes is not something I would anticipate with glee, but I know how hard it is to meet a good person.I don't scope out myspace profiles for dates, nor have I dated a friend's ex but hey, folks have to meet somehow. If I were still friends with my ex after 10 years, that would mean I thought he was a pretty good person. And likewise for all of my female friends. So why would I be opposed to two good people making a match especially when I would want to see my friends happy?
Throw the D's on this one. Drop her like it's hot. She ain't just after any man. She is after your husband. Trust!
Remember that Cris Rock joke:
'When a man introduces his girl to his friend, the friend thinks to himself, "I like her, she's nice. I'll get a girl just like her". When a woman introduces her man to her friend, the friend thinks to herself, 'I like him, he's nice. I'm going to get HIM".
Keep her AWAY from your husband!
All I can say is that women with extremely low self-esteem are dangerous and can and will make someone life miserable. And usually there are no limits to the scary situations they drag others into. End this friendship as soon as possible, but definitely don't piss her off..lol
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Also, I can't date my friends exes because I know it only human nature to make comparsions. And I personally couldn't get over the fact that my man had been inimate in any way with one of my friends. I guess I am not that evolved....lol
Shady as all hell! Keep an eye on her, siditty!
I wanted to correct my last comment:
You said your friend said she seemed like a nice girl so it would be hard to get the impression she was sending inappropriate messages.
I'll just have to be the odd woman out. I don't think my exes belong to me.
I don't think my exes belong to me either, but if I were single I wouldn't go on the hunt for all my friends ex boyfriends. That being said, I do find it weird when friends date each other because if things don't work out, they will both be coming to me to bad mouth why they no longer like each other and then some folks want people to take sides, I don't want to be in that situation. I personally find it odd to want to date someone my friend once dated, there are more than the folks I know out in the world to go after.
She is dangerous and has a lot of negative energy, distance yourself for her! People like her are accidents waiting to happen or walking dramas, you don't need that in your life.
Happy 300th!!!! Yay!!! Keep writing, I'll keep reading :)
As for your friend, WTF you doing with a friend that's trying to hit on your hubby? That's foul. You should dumb her quick quick!
I agree with the majority here. I'd distance myself from such a person. She's miserable!
Miriam,
Um, I don't think anyone said the chick was good friend material, including me. Pretty strange how that keeps getting miscontrued.
Ewww....I never dated a friend's ex. There are some things that we women shouldn't do in my opinion. I had a guy who dated one of my best girlfriend's from college (she is white) and so is he who broke up with her. Then he tried to ask me out the very next week. I guess he couldn't wait or something. I never told my friend that this happen, but I do think she figured out something weird was going on. He was so sleazy in my opinion besides the fact that I think he was only interested in me because in Nebraska all non-white women are considered "exotic" to many white men.
I also agree with the other posters she'll be trying to get at your husband if she thinks there a possibility she can get in where she can fit in! :( Stay back and definitely keep your husband away from her! She sounds like the type that you'd want to cut or smack with a brick if you ask me. We can't have you catching a case...now can we?! ;) I kidding here, but do think she is seriously troubled.
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