2009-01-04

Dear Anonymous

A while back ago I made this post about why BM/WW IR is more prevalent than WM/BW IR. Last night I received a response to this post via the comment section from an anonymous. This was the response:

You black women just got bamboozeled!The white women are masters of keeping a man.They know how to shut their mouth when in public,help stick by him so he will be able to buy her that house and car.And we black men have great respect to find a white woman to stick with black in this race based world.Tell me black women describe the welfare case worker that told you to kick out the father because he is no good!Yes that's right the white woman.You see a black woman don't want to go with a man that gets his hands dirty for a living even though we make 40 to 100 grand a year with super benefits!White women have respect for a man that does labor work.Without labor work you would not have roads,cars,houses,food,hospitals,etc. etc..Now do you see how people look at as stupid for turning down this great supply of good men!The white women deserve black men because they know how to build a man up!We black men are not no damn movie stars we are just regular people,we don't want to be used for someone to try to live like they are some movie star!That's why black women are single and DESPERATE as hell on a crisses level .Clean up your act you stint wash and doush,learn to cook,keep your mouth shut in public,stop telling everybody all about your damn personal life,stop going out all the time like your a paid caberay singer,Until you learn what to do with a man stop begging for one.You did not even care about the black man until the white women picked us up,you had us to yourself for 400 years through slavery and racism.You talked about us and treated us any ole way because we had no where else to go.Now the black man starting get the reconition he deserves your caught without a man and holding onto a welfare check or working in a high rise overly dressed to hide that ain't got no man.And no the white man ain't gonna pick you up because he done had you for the last 400 years!Sparks fly between us black men and white women but black women white men battery been ran out!!!



I do not think white women are master's at keeping men. My mother has kept a man for over 35 years, I have aunts who have managed to keep men, I myself have kept a man for over 9 years. We are all black women. I know countless many white women who are single and divorced. Just because one manages to get married, doesn't mean that they stay married.

I am sorry, but I don't think all white women are stepford wives, and I do think it is odd you think women need to stick by their men so they can get a house and car. Black women never had the luxury of sticking by men, and we learned to obtain a car and house on our own, like many white women have.

Black women statistically are expected to marry men who are less educated and with less income than them, not more, white collar or blue collar. So that what you stated is not true. I went to college with many a white girls whose major goal was getting a Mrs. degree. I know many gold diggers of ALL hues.

As a black woman I can say I am not desperate. I am in a healthy, loving relationship. I know many black women like this. We are not all desperate. The marriage rates of black men and black women are not vastly different like you want to believe. 41% of black men and 43% of black women have never been married. Some black women do build up black men, but some black men don't like yourself don't want black women, and see what you want to see.

Newsflash, black women wash and douche. Some of us know how to cook, and some of us know what to do with a man, but sometimes we waste that knowledge on men not deserving of us. Men like you.

I will inform my husband he no longer loves me because he as a white man has had 400 years of me. I will also note that the biggest benefactor of welfare is WHITE women, not black women. I know lots of overly dressed people of all races working in high rises who are single.

All in all, it seems your comment was the typical lashing out at the thing you claim you want nothing to do with. I realize white men are not saviors, and that good men come in every race, why have you not figured that out? White women are not the answer to every black man's prayers.

Thank you,

Siditty

53 comments:

Mr. Noface said...

Siditty,

That anon's comment didn't even deserve a response from you. Great post none the less.

roslynholcomb said...

I hope nobody out there is listening to assholes like this as it pertains to anything, but especially not to personal hygiene. The vagina is a self-cleaning organ. As long as you take regular baths, douching does more harm than good. And learn how to spell, motherfucker.

Rhonda said...

Siditty,
Congrats on the baby!! When did you find out?

SOILA. said...

I'm amazed that people find enough words to say such crap. Just sad.

Beautifully.Conjured.Up said...

I must say, this comment by anonymous isn't new to me...I've heard it all...while reading it, I had my violin playing in my head. With that being said, I have no need to entertain him, for ignorance isn't worthy.

BTW, are you expecting Siditty? If so, CONGRATS!! (I'm piggybacking from the other comment)

tasha212 said...

Roslyn,

Your comment is hilarious!

Beautifully.Conjured.Up said...

Ok, I see that I'm slow, for I should have read your new title "Knocked Up Since 2008." Once again, congrats and may you have a healthy pregnancy, birth, and baby :)

Anonymous said...

When are men going to realize the issues is THEM. Show me a half black person and 80% of the time I will tell you there is a missing black father. Just ask Barack, Halle, Alicia, Mariah and many other biracial folks. Leaving these kids with these white and asian women with no black influence in their lives. I see it all the time

Aisha said...

What a sad and pathetic troll. That angry little boy must have been burnt badly be the Black woman who he still so obviously wants. That post actually made me laugh.

Kristin said...

Yes, congrats to you and your husband. What a great way to start the new year off.

Untouched Jewel said...

Just like a disgruntled, self hating Black man.... SMH. He may think a white woman being a "silent partner" is the answer to a Black man's prayers, but what happens when that gets old? And it also goes to show you how ignorant this fool really is. He's gonna blurt out that Black women are good for receiving a welfare check. He REALLY needs to check out the real stats on the black to white ratio of welfare recipients. I'm sick of these super dumb and ignorant Black men who think that white women are their savior from being real men. Typical.

simone said...

Just another loser with his pointless mindless comments.

simone said...

Congratulations Siditty on the upcoming bambino.

digitalcoyote said...

Zomg! A SiBaby!! Congrats.

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As for that anonymous comment someone was so "nice" to leave you, it sounds like the crap I'd get from black men who didn't want to look my way........until a white guy was watching or with me.

"Sparks fly between us black men and white women but black women white men battery been ran out!!! "

Here's hoping one of those sparks flies off and activates the spell check function for him next time. Clippy is there to help, not steal your soul.

I think.

Anonymous said...

First off , no more troll feeding PLEASE. Second, congrats to the bun in the oven!

Grata said...

"The vagina is a self-cleaning organ. As long as you take regular baths, douching does more harm than good. And learn how to spell, motherfucker."

LOL! Roselyn,
Long time.Good to see you about.

That is a Paper man. And if anyone deserves that its a non black woman. I wish all those would actually end up with White women.

Grata said...

"Show me a half black person and 80% of the time I will tell you there is a missing black father. Just ask Barack, Halle, Alicia, Mariah and many other biracial folks. Leaving these kids with these white and asian women with no black influence in their lives. I see it all the time"

So true. These men don't even stay with these white women they run to. Also next time you see a celeb BM/WW couple. Notice how uncomfortable the man is. The only person I have seen comfortable in his relationship is Seal. That seems like a genuine relationship. Most of them seem to have a trophism aura. And I think their real intentions catch up with them later on. That is why they split and are too embarrassed to go back to BW so they keep running through non BW. African men have like a 98% failure rate in these relationships.


They better face their short comings as men in this society whether this is a result of racism or themselves. Blaming Black women will only carry on for another few years. Once the population of fatherless biracial kids grows, they will have to face the truth that they are Paper men.

A-Dawg said...

That comment made me laugh...what an idiot...anyways, I too have written a bit on this subject if you care to read: http://sonarbison.blogspot.com/2008/07/this-is-relevant-to-my-interests.html

Orchid said...

See, I actually started taking him seriously. I was getting wounded by his words, until I realized all the misspelled words, and then I though "Epic FAIL!". And did he just ask black women to DOUCHE! That is really...odd. Man it must suck to be his wife...

I know you don't know me (reading your blog since early last year) but CONGRATS on the baby!

Man, I'm going to feel like such a dork if you're not pregnant lol.

Anonymous said...

Siditty, may I request that you never waste a second or a minute on these people ever again? You're expecting, for Goodness's sake. This can't be good for any mother.

I am not ruffled by this comment, really. Then again, I'm neither a BW, BM, WW or WM. People like this run wild and free in the streets, and many times we may not be able to identify them. What they do is beyond my control, so I let nature run its course and I let them do as they please. With the good comes the bad, and eventually, we'll all have what we deserve. I don't feel a need to bash anyone here, I understand there are temptations and/or obligations that are hard for us to cope with. As you have a successful marriage Siditty, I feel you should not have to answer to such people.

-- Jade

FunkyStarkitty50 said...

It never ceases to amaze me how these "cowards" on the Internet are not man/woman enough to put there name behind their vicious venom. If you are going to have the audacity to spew ignorance, at least be bold with it. Congrats to you and your husband. Just remember, the nausea only lasts for a little while. You may get lucky and never get it.

Anonymous said...

Not only is his comment extremely self-hating it's also incredibly sexist. Sad.

uglyblackjohn said...

Really?
Damn... I've dated (done) many women from many races and ethnicities.
But the one's I like best are the
nice,
funny,
smart,
hot,
physically fit,
religious,
....
Race plays no factor in my choices.

Boom said...

What's wrong with this quack? Mommy didn't hug him enough?


P.S.
Congrats on the baby!!

roslynholcomb said...

And what is up with these guys and feminine hygiene anyway? Terence Howard and his damned baby wipes. Sorry, there's a reason why the damned things say BABY wipes. Goodness knows what his women are eaten up with, but it says more about his taste than it does the women.

Anonymous said...

" I will also note that the biggest benefactor of welfare is WHITE women." False! In total numbers, there maybe more WW on welfare, but that is because they're about 80 million more WW than BW in the country. Percentage wise many more BW are on welfare.

DeStouet said...

after the very first sentence, I stopped reading. it just wasn't worth MY time and energy.

Anonymous said...

wow that email was crazy, especially the statement about white men having us for 400 years. I don't whether to think this man is mentally insane or an asshole that wrote this as a sick joke. enough about the complaints of black women being too hard to deal with, if this man is for real about what he thinks, then his arguing is proof that black women can't be ignored and he may be targeting some fucked internal issues towards his female counterparts to put himself on a pedestal.


btw loved ur response siddity, very classy

(fŭng'kē) [blak] [chik] said...

Ignorance is bliss, I suppose!

Congratulations on the baby!!

Anonymous said...

This fool is coming straight out of a comic book. If White women know how to keep a man, then why do the US Census Bureau statistics report that more white women have been divorced than non-White women? Total US female divorce statistics as of 2001:
-White: 24.2%
-White (non-Hispanic): 25.4%
-Black: 20.1%
-Hispanic (of any race): 15.9%
-Asian: 10.4%

*(http://www.census.gov/population/socdemo/marital-hist/p70-97/tab01.pdf)*


@Anon 8:10am- That doesn't disprove anything. If there are more white females on welfare than blacks females, then white females are benefiting from the program more.

Anonymous said...

I have a question...

is it more acceptable for a white guy to date an indian girl even if she is the darker kind? because i see indian women with white men all the time in London. Most of these indian girls are darker than some african girls i know. I always wondered if they counted indian girls as "asians" when they say they date asians. I know indians are asians but when w hite guy mentions asians he usually means east asians it seems...

Austingirl said...

Congratulations on the baby!

Grata said...

Re: Douching. What this idiot wouldn't know.

A 1995 survey quoted in the University of Rochester study found that 27 percent of U.S. women age 15 to 44 douched regularly, but that douching was more common among African-American women (over 50%) than among white women (21%).

Siditty said...

Thanks Mr. Noface :)

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LOL Roslyn :)

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As for that anonymous comment someone was so "nice" to leave you, it sounds like the crap I'd get from black men who didn't want to look my way........until a white guy was watching or with me.

I used to hate that, why all the sudden am I so desirable after a white man starts looking at me. That tells me about the mindset of some of these men. Their self esteem and self hatred is so low, that the only way you can be deemed attractive by them, is if a white man deems you so.

LOL @

Here's hoping one of those sparks flies off and activates the spell check function for him next time. Clippy is there to help, not steal your soul.

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Thank you Jade, you are correct :)

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Really?
Damn... I've dated (done) many women from many races and ethnicities. 
But the one's I like best are the 
nice,
funny,
smart,
hot,
physically fit,
religious,
....
Race plays no factor in my choices.

And that is how it should be :)

Siditty said...

" I will also note that the biggest benefactor of welfare is WHITE women." False! In total numbers, there maybe more WW on welfare, but that is because they're about 80 million more WW than BW in the country. Percentage wise many more BW are on welfare.

Numbers wise, more white women are on welfare than black woman. How is that false? I think you really want to believe Good Times and BET is an accurate reflection of African Americans.

P.S. I have never been on welfare, and I have known way more black women who have never been on welfare vs. those who are on welfare, but we must all be magical negros.

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Grata,

Stop using facts. Not to mention if that man hangs out with woman with stinky coochies, that is on him, not anyone else.

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On the Baby for Rhonda, Beautifully Conjured Up, Kristin, simone, digitalcoyote, Orchid, Funkystarkitty, Boom, (fŭng'kē) [blak] [chik], Austingirl:


I found out about three weeks ago. I am nine weeks along, and thank you guys for all the congrats :)

Siditty said...

I have a question...

is it more acceptable for a white guy to date an indian girl even if she is the darker kind? because i see indian women with white men all the time in London. Most of these indian girls are darker than some african girls i know. I always wondered if they counted indian girls as "asians" when they say they date asians. I know indians are asians but when w hite guy mentions asians he usually means east asians it seems...


Anon,

This is my opinion, and my opinion only. Yes it is socially acceptable to date a dark skinned indian woman over a black woman in America. Even if the woman is darker than most african americans, she still isn't black. I have known countless whites mention they are ok with IR relationships with asians, hispanics, and other races, but they can't cross the line of black, no matter what, and it is due to negative stereotypes. Black on the totem pole is still the lowest of the low, even if it is lighter than those of other races. I remember once a girl at my school cried in middle school because a white guy joked she was darker than me. He thought it was funny that black people were called black, when most are brown, and decided to use her skin coloring as an example. He didn't say it as a negative, but the concept of being dark was such a hard thing for her to deal with.

Siditty said...

I do think most of the time when white guys think asian, they think east asian though. In the racial hierarchy, a east asian would be more acceptable than an indian girl.

ieishah said...

what i'm about to say, i've said on at least 5 other blogs in the last few weeks: i'm so glad i don't live in the states anymore!! there is nowhere in the world--in all of the rest of the world, trust me- where an indian/asian woman, any indian/asian woman just by virtue of being indian/asian, is 'higher up' on ANY hierarchy than a black american woman. in the rest of the world, other determiners rule, like nationality, language, education. of course, ideally, there'd be no pecking order at all, but if i have to choose . . .

Londongirl said...

I would like to say a big congrats to Siditty on her pregnancy. I have been a fan of your blog for the past year and a bit, although I'm in London.
I have post a few comments about the lack of WM/BW relationships in London and I'm hearing more BW in the UK making a point that WM are not interest in dating BW in London. I don't know about the rest of the UK, I have heard that WM in Manchester and other Northern cities are more open to dating BW but in London it very rare for a WM to approach a BW or to see many BW/WM couples.I don't know why this is?I wish someone would find out!!
Another fact that comes in to play is how BW are not seen as 'hot' in the mainstream media and some BW are argue that this puts us at disadvantage in the dating arena.

ValeriesWorld said...

Siditty Congratulations on your pregnancy. One of the reasons, why I am so glad that I believe in God, because I find Anon's comments hiliarous and in due course Jesus will him out. Once again God bless on your pregnancy.

Aphrodite said...

This post was too funny! This guy is a jerk/loser. It is pointless, senseless...I wish that people like him wore ID tags in public so that the normal people are forewarned. LOL


Congratulations on the pregnancy!

Seattle Slim said...

I rarely ever use the N word but I will today:

Nigga please... For REAL.

I can't even waste my time on responding to this shit. This stupid bastard needs to drink hot bleach...

Anonymous said...

How many times do I have to explain this to you? There are 80 million more WW in the country than BW. Obviously, more WW will be on welfare because of this. However, if you look at the percentage of BW on welfare compared to the percentage of WW, it isn't even close. Furthermore, nobody is saying most BW are welfare queens, I'm just putting your stats in perspective.

Siditty said...

There are 80 million more WW in the country than BW. Obviously, more WW will be on welfare because of this. However, if you look at the percentage of BW on welfare compared to the percentage of WW, it isn't even close. Furthermore, nobody is saying most BW are welfare queens, I'm just putting your stats in perspective.

The fact of the matter is the biggest benefactor of welfare in sheer numbers is WHITE WOMEN, that isn't false. You said it was false. It isn't false, and you seem upset that I don't think that most black women live on welfare.

White people like to think black people commit crimes against whites in record numbers . They never want to take into consideration those who commit crimes have a better chance at getting a white victim versus a black victim based upon sheer numbers, they just like to believe blacks are criminals.

BadBlackKitty said...

Congrats Sid!!!!

LOL! Seattle Slim, I love you....you are hilarious.

Nigs like him are the reason I've never dated black. They seem to be the majority of black males. YUCK. Those white chicks whose virtues he extols can sooooo totally have his dumbass.

JamDown said...

Please delete future crazy posts like this joker.

How nice about the bambino! Congrats!

Seattle Slim said...

Badblackckitty,

WORD!

ActsofFaithBlog said...

Wow this guy could not even s-p-e-l-l. It is a waste of space. He sounds like he didn't make it past 3rd grade but geez my vocabulary was way better than that! No wonder he's a laborer - if he even has a job.

cocoalady said...

Congrats Siditty on the baby. That guy is really angry, wow! This is really sad that he would feel that way, but who cares. I believe in krama and eventually it will come back to bite him and others like him.

Anonymous said...

Also next time you see a celeb BM/WW couple. Notice how uncomfortable the man is.
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Also the next time you see a celebrity BM/WW couple, notice how long they stay together and notice what she brings to the relationship table and what she takes from the table when she leaves. Usually she brings nothing to the table because she is not a professional(although there are some exceptions).She usually stays with him for about 5 to 6 years (sometime it could be a bit longer) and when she leaves she takes half of his net worth or more. She can do one hell of an acting job to get what she wants (which is his money)but he is too stupid to realize it. All I have to say to her is get paid(you go girl, 5 to 6 years of misery just to be rich for a life time with money that you did not have to work for because you never attended college and you met a rich sucker who was dumb enough to marry you and not sign or read the prenuptual agreement).

Anonymous said...

Great response hit all the key points and factors.

I'm not shocked its very nice to meet another strong, intelligent, well rounded black woman.

Anonymous said...

These guys are so damaged many will cling to white women even when called the N word by them. What they are really afraid of is black women becoming too comfortable doing without them and indifference is settling in. They imagine everyone is desperate for them in the hopes of getting attention. Isn't it funny how black women are taught to marry down, but black men should seek someone on their level...which doesn't include black women. They'll do and say anything to justify the fact that they tend to take their cues from white men. Many are now extolling Asian women when they want to cut down white women. It's best just not to focus on black men or what they think.

Anonymous said...

Anon said: "Also the next time you see a celebrity BM/WW couple, notice how long they stay together and notice what she brings to the relationship table and what she takes from the table when she leaves." THINK Michael Strahan, Lou Rawls, Glen Rice, Amani Toomer...the list goes on and on. As the number of black men decline in sports...so goes the women. I'm afraid many of them will soon think black women are now suitable for them once they are down on their luck. Hope they live and remain with ww to be honest.