I know this is going to sound harsh, but I need to say it because obviously I'm pissing folks off.
If I piss you off, or you feel this blog is not to your liking anymore. DON'T READ IT.
Contrary to what some folks say, I don't give a damn if people comment or read. Don't get me wrong, I like that I have people who enjoy this blog, I enjoy that people are interested in what I have to say, but I'm tired, and ultimately I write on this blog because I want to.
Yes I am on Google AdSense and the Blogher Ad network, but I don't pay the bills with this blog, I make pennies a day, I can't live off pennies a day. To be honest, I have no real clue how much money I have made on this blog, but let's just say I ain't getting checks on the regular from ad revenue.
I'm tired of folks whose sole purpose is to come here to nitpick.
I'm tired of being told I am a racist of white people, a white people lover, racist against blacks, asians, hispanics, or multiracial/biracial people, a black man hater, a black man defender, or whatever else I defend hate. If you haven't figured it out, on this blog, I get it from all sides.
I'm tired of folks getting pissed off because my blog is "spiritually dark". I'm sorry, I am not spiritual, so the blog isn't. I get pissy, moody, and sometimes I lose my patience.
If you think the blog hates black men and obsess over them because I post damn youtube videos of crazy folks talking about BW/WM IR, don't read those posts, better yet, don't read the blog at all. If you have gathered I am in agreement or trying to expose DBR BM from these videos, then you haven't figured out I post about DBR in all forms,white people, black people, hispanic people, all races of DBR get featured here.
Another thing THE COMMENTS MADE ON THE POSTS OF THIS BLOG DO NOT REFLECT ME. I am sorry, I want this blog not to be an ass kissing fest. People are not going to agree, but just because I don't denounce what is said, or just silent about the comment on the posts, does not mean I am in agreement or condone them. I've been pretty damn lax even after implementing rules on the comments section. As long as you aren't a blatant troll, I let people comment, even if what they say is a hot pile of steaming shit in my opinion.
With all that being said, I like the people who comment on blog, I like that people actually are interested in reading what I have to say no matter how jacked up my spelling or grammar is in each and every post. I like that people feel they can comment and have discussions. I think it is the best thing in the world, and I welcome all here, I really do, like I said before this isn't a ass kissing blog, you don't have to like me, hell you can even hate me, but realize you don't see the whole blog. You don't get to see everything.
I thank you guys who take the time out of your day to read my blog, I appreciate you, and I love you all in a cyber kind of way.
36 comments:
Keep it up Sid.
Anyone who thinks this stuff is "fun" is nuts.
I'm glad you post and love your blog...
Enough sappiness, bring on the 80's new wave posts and more love notes to nerds so I can laugh at you... uh, I mean "with" you.
Oh please!! People are really upset by what you write?? Thought provoking yes, but hateful, NO. crazy. Don’t apologize for what you write in your own space. It’s your voice.
Love your blog, Siddity. Keep up the good work!
I agree . This is your own personal blog.
You are not paid to post articles therefore you have the right to discuss whatever you want. And since you have been more than transparent and very generous about your life, views and experiences as a Black woman, it is expected that you are going to sometimes discuss topics that include racism interracial issues, and gender issues. I wonder why no one niticks about all your other music video posts, etc. There are many black/minority (even white--Why Black people suck is but one) blogs that discuss similar personal experiences—thus I am at a lost to understand why anyone is complaining being as there literally thousands of websites and blogs that are tailor made for anyone’s specific tastes—if this particular blog does not suite the reader---the mouse is there for a reason.
We have the privilege of being allowed to comment—like most other blogs, therefore I think it is ridiculous that you even have to post an open letter especially as this is your own personal blog.
Ooooh...she tole y'all!
Whoa.
That was about the best post I've ever read anywhere (blogs or chat rooms) that basically said, "Deal with it."
I do enjoy reading your blog and the comments made on your blog. Have been since November '08.
I have learned a lot about people, the world beyond my little backyard of CT and a few things about myself while reading your blog.
A blog should reflect the views of the creator, and this one does a very good job. I may not understand some of the stuff you talk about, but I do appreciate the candor and openness that makes this blog one of my perrenial faves.
Don't ever change.
Let you be you.
Love you too, girl! Stay strong.
I'm a black woman who just started reading your blog two weeks ago. I found it through Google and I thought is was interesting after reading a few of your articles. However, after today I will no longer read it. Many of your post seem to center after interracial relationships which is understandable because of your marriage. What I don't get is why you continuously post about black men liking everything that is light, bright, and white but you yourself have said you were more drawn to white men than black men. Why does the opinion of black men making youtube videos matter to you? On one hand you say black men are not a factor in every interracial relationship but on the other hand it's evident that their opinion matters to both you and the women who comment on this blog. Many of your articles incite hate and bitterness as a result of this contradiction.
I notice you filter the hateful comments posted by black men against black women but rarely are some of the hateful comments by black women against black men filtered. Not only have your post become increasingly negative but so too have many of the individuals who comment here. I know if I find some of these comments offensive as a black woman with three grown sons black men must too find them offensive.
I personally love your blog :o)
that needed saying... the comments on two posts in particular have been becoming more ridiculous by the day!
Love ur blog!
Siditty,
It's your blog and it should be reflective of you; expectations from others can't be a part of that equation.
I'm not telling you something you haven't said; I'm simply agreeing with a comrade.
U
You don't owe anyone an apology. This is your blog. I thoroughly enjoy it and you need not concern yourself with anyone else. Delete at you see fit any comments that may frustrate you.
Great post. We can either enjoy or keep stepping.
Got to set them straight.
Daaaammmmmmn. I think the folks Sid is referring to just got molded.
Please keep writing--it makes me feel like I'm not alone in some ways.
However, after today I will no longer read it.
BYE!
Its your blog, dowhachawanna do!!
Question: What's wrong with making money doing what you obviously love to do?
Garrison Kellior at Salon had an article about all these brilliant writers on the internet that have the potential to read by millions, but will not make a dime from it.
I myself am researching the money making aspects of blogging - some bloggers (read: white) are making a living - ever read that tripe called Hungry Girl? Bad advice, bad recipes, but she is making a mint and got her own book deal?
What's stopping you or me from doing the same?
Anyhoo, keep doing whatcha doin...
I love your blog too. You make a lot of insightful posts and other people be damned if they have a problem with them.
I agree.
If you don't like what she is saying on here own blog, then don't read it.
She isn't forcing you to read or comment.
If you do comment, don't get pissed if other posters debate you.
Get some balls and stand by your opinion.
Siddity, thanks for your openness and honesty. The TRUTH can be UGLY and for those who can't handle how you present it, they're always free to go.
CHUUUURCH!
I think it's wrong for people to expect you to write about things that they want to read only. If that's the case, they can get their own blog. You write what YOU feel, and those of us who are privy to the conversation need to respect that, have dialogue or find a blog that fits that.
Personally, I love your freakin' blog and I rebuke you changing anything lol ;)
People are charming, aren't they?
*sarcasm*
Keep it up - your blog rocks.
:)
@Anon August 12, 2009 4:49 PM
I couldn't have put it better myself! A wonderfully dignified response.
Thanks
Menelik Charles
London England
Hey Siditty,
We don't always agree but I've always had respect for your intellect and writing. Keep it up- and don't be afraid to kick off those who can't just take it or leave it w/o shutting the hell up.
You told me to stop reading if I don't like your posts so I have to write to tell you I am not going to read or comment anymore and I couldn't have just decided to stop reading before whenever it was that I first started getting all po'd at your blog! So there! I'm not reading anymore!
I'd like to know how that anon knows you "I notice you filter the hateful comments posted by black men". Is there a secret comment moderation history page that only she has access to? I guess the evidence must be the nonexistent hateful bm posts from the last couple of days.
Yeppers...
Your Blog!
Your Blog...Which means the reader can take it or leave it...If they're going to play semantics with every post and not actually discuss the issue (whether or not in agreement), then everyone's time is being wasted...
Anywhooo...I don't comment here often (Not too much anywhere these days...Busy Bee), but keep up the good work...The world needs people with differing points of view...
Sid you owe no one an explanation you write what you feel and that's what you have been doing. Love the blog and keep doing what you are doing.
Sid, love YOUR blog and the way you put YOUR opinions/observations out there for other people to discuss. Agree/disagree/confused, respect the fact that you put it out there.
For those who think this blog is antiBM: You are entitled to your opinions, however do not confuse what Sid posts with how others respond to said posts.
Ur not losing me or many others. Keep speaking ur mind. I love it.
Siditty -
You know how much I love you and your blog for keeping it real. People out there are too overly-pc and it wracks my nerves sometimes. Your site is a relief from all that. Folks simply do not like to hear the truth.
I love your blog! It was the first blog I ever read, and you inspired me to start blogging. :-)
PS. What does DBR mean? I've read it a million times but I've never been able to figure it out...deadbeat rat?
Girl, don't let haters get you down. I like what you do and lots of folks do. Some folks can't say anything that isn't negative and the web and its anonymity makes it easier for them. Keep on keeping on my sister.
Virtual hugs,
Lisa J
I love you and your blog. Quit giving folks who just want to stress you out time of day. Your blog is your space which means you can air your thoughts on it freely.
I think your blog is great Siditty...it's well written and thought provoking...it always makes me think of an issue from a different perspective. You know what they say: you know you're good when you get crap from all sides. As my brother always says, do you!
I love your blog, and the freshness that it brings. Screw the haters!!
S. said...
I remember when you used to say that the DBR BM blogs were obsessed about what BM think about IR dating. Now it seems as if you are now in lock step. Showing YouTube videos of crazy people does not translate to how all BM think about BW. Truth be told, a lot of BW could care less about what BM think and vice versa. I really do enjoy your blog. However, it seems that more and more you are doing the same thing that you accuse Evia, Halima, etc. of doing.
I get that there are crazy BM who don't like BW dating outside their race, just as there are BW who get irate about BM dating interracially. Maybe you are just trying to do the posts that get a lot of comment replies. I am not denying that the YouTube videos are upsetting but I am not sure what it is the point of using them to represent a larger group of people. Maybe you are just trying to show the level of craziness that some people in America display. Don’t give these whacko YouTubers more face time.
August 12, 2009 2:01 PM
S. said...
Siditty,
My intention was not to "start ish" Please don't take it that way. I enjoy a lot of your posts. It seems as if I misinterpreted you intent. Some of the more recent posts (in my opinion) seem to be focused on the BM crazies on YouTube. I guess maybe my frustrations are more with the posters who then use it as a platform to say things like SweetSoulSister said "BM in general are pathetic." I am not trying to hijack the thread. I have been reading your blog for over a year now and enjoy the content that is why I was confused by the more recent posts about the YouTube posters. Like I said maybe you are just showing the nutjobs out there. I agree you also have a lot of posts about many other things not relating to BM against BW. You are right, it is your blog and you can post whatever content you like. I apologize if I went too far by comparing you to Evia and her ilk. Well, I will go back to reading your blog and not commenting.
August 12, 2009 7:18 PM
S,
So WHAT if posters ike SweetSoulSister says BM are pathetic?
WHY are YOU sooo concerned about defending black men? and THEIR feelings?
And if your problem is with the posters who are saying these things, maybe YOU should take it up with them instead of complaining to Siditty.
And I find it interesting that you compare her to Evia Halima and possible Sara, considering I have see your responses on Sara's blog posts.
You have a tendency to go on blogs like these and criticize black women and tell them what they cant't do and judge people all damn day, yet act like your ish don't stink.
I'm sorry to rant, but I have HAD it with this particular poster.
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