Dear Old White Man,
I know when you approach me, I am supposed to drop my panties on site. I understand that me being a negro, I should be flattered you offered to buy my coffee. I know that after you asked if we could have coffee together and I told you I was married, I should have just bypassed that and offered instead to go off to some seedy hotel with you. Unfortunately for you, I don't work that way. I see you as the reason so many black women are scared to date white men.
I remember back in the day in my early 20s, the white men who always approached me were in their 30s, 40s, and 50s. I even had a few who were in their 60s who would approach me. Wrinkled, overweight, or married, it didn't matter I was the key to fulfilling the fantasy of sleeping with the black woman, who in your mind is apparently wild in bed. I know that you had this dream in your teens and 20s, but then you were too scared of what your family and friends would say, so you went the safe route and got your white woman, got married, and had kids. I understand you are now divorced, or you never bothered to get married, but why not fulfill the fantasy with a black woman closer to your age? You want the woman who might have wanted to date you if you were her age, maybe when you are a little less wrinkled, bald, and worn.
All I am saying is, your boat as passed. Just because now you have nothing to lose, it doesn't mean I don't. I have family and friends who like me, are not impressed by whiteness alone. Some of us black women are not complacent with being your play toy or your "dirty little secret". Some us only actually sleep with men we like and want relationships with, not with any man on the street corner. Some of us actually like white guys, but we only like white guys who aren't scared of what their families and friends will think. We like guys our own age, and not just any man who comes and approaches us. I know per the media and hell even some of our own, we are ugly, downtrodden, desperate, and destined to be alone, but some of us actually do ok in the dating and relationship world and are willing to hold out for the guys who aren't chicken shit.
I hope you find someone, let's hope you don't pay and offer a hotel room for her
27 comments:
Now,now missy this isn't resting.
But this post speaks the truth. Some have the nerve to be shocked that you want nothing to do with them. How dare a lowly Negress reject a white male.
I'm 26 and I have never had an older white man approach me. I have heard a lot of black women on here talk about this and it has never happened to me. Not even when I worked around a lot of older white men. I'm not around a lot of white men usually but when I am if any of them approach they are usually young. I guess I'm not older white men's type which is fine with me.
I swear, some people watch too many movies like Monster's Ball. That is not how it is in real life gentlemen (this is to you fair skinned fellows of the geriatric variety). You are not going be able to pull ebony beauty just off of the strength of your whiteness. The same goes for you older white females, when it comes to (what is the term?) the young black bull (?).
To my “brothahs” and “sistahs” that act in ways that let these old white women and men think that they can have any kind of brown skin they want(with little effort on their part)…DO BETTER!!!
Dang! Foiled again! LOL
great post.
Eddie
I hope you get well
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I'm glad that you are talking about this subject. I have always noticed that White men and White women 18 - 35. Try their darndest to find another white mate, and never would openly date a Black partner.
But once they are 35+, divorced, and have kids. Its like a kid in a candy store for blackness. That is in itself an issue.
But the part that trips me out. Is that they believe they deserve the best looking, youngest Black person they can get. Not somebody their own age, or just as unattractive as they are. They believe that no matter how fat, old, poor mannered, or broke they are. That Black people should be honored to date them. Just because they have white skin.
Preach, Sid. Preach. I think that most of these men are surprised when I look at them like they need to get lost. I told one who messaged me on a dating site that I just wasn't that desperate. kthxbai
Talk about hearing your sentiments echoed by another voice. I can't even tell you how many times I've called "novelty item" on their shenanigans.
I'm 5'11",130pds and have somewhat aquiline features. I learned early that I was the old white mans wet dream. Especially the rich ones who fancied me partial to some weird modern day fucked up placage system. (I am of Creole heritage so I know alllll about that crap).
Here is a link to a poet reading her poem entitled, "I Am NOT Your Exotica". I think she understands as well.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eVkylZEgsY8
Excellent post Siddity! I would only add that BW closer to these older WM's age are also NOT INTERESTED in OLDER WM who WERE ANTI-BW COWARDS/RACISTS when they were in their PRIME.
BW of ANY AGE DESERVE to ONLY be in good dating or marriage relationships with quality WM/MEN of ANY RACE.
Hi!
I read your blog regurlarly and as a young black woman this kind of crappy offers happen to me a lot.
It's like because you're a white dude, I'll be ok to go to bed with you, even if you're ugly, stupid, jobless or whatever shortcomings you have.
Those guys feel that being white is their ticket to get black pussies. I'm sorry to talk that way, but it's the way I feel when I have old or ugly white guys coming to me thinking they've already got me.
I do like white guys, but those who do a real effort to get to know me that are respectful and see me as a human being, not sexual toilets.
Siditty,
That is so very true!! What you spoke is my mantra. I live in a conservative town in Florida and I am pretty much convinced that a large majority of the white men who live in my town feel this way. I should just fall to my knees because they looked my way and smiled or opened a door for me. Yet they say nothing. But as I continue to date, every once in a while, I'll meet a guy who doesn't give a damn that I'm black and actually thinks I'm cute and smart.
Can you write a letter to these nasty ass old Black men I see trolling the convenience store around my way?
lol...
Hey Siditty, I thought you were going to stop posting for awhile? I guess you couldn't help but get in another anti-white man post before you go. Does your husband read your blog. How could he be married to a woman like you? Why would you have a baby with a white man, since you despise us so much? You're so mean-spirited and insulting.
The part that gets me are the dudes that married the White/Asian trophy wife—for years, divorce (now that their parents are dead or too senile to care), had their kids who may be grown or too wrapped up in their own lives to care, so they get a vasectomy, a bottle of viagra,(cause they already got their progeny and really don’t want the hassle of dealing with brown babies), and think that their piebald pate and their overhanging pot belly is enough to bring on the sexual chocolate.
Of course women their own age aren't good enough either, since they maybe too angry, too whatever excuse they need to get to the twenty something hottie, unless they think they can use her to get younger, brighter women. I saw that a lot on those IR blogs. Black Women literally salivating that some old 60+ dude is with a twenty something and that somehow that translate to IR progress.
Anon 6:43 PM: There's a difference between hating WM/BM/AM/LM and hating a disgusting subsection of their group.
Please don't think it doesn't happen in the other direction too - I've been married to my Black husband for 28 years and I can't tell you the number of times the following scenario has played out - I'm in line with a gallon of milk in one hand, one or more of my five kids with me. A Black guy (and ALWAYS some tore up lookin' fool) glances at me, gaze slides down to my child, does a double take, looks back at me quickly with a silly smile. "Miss - how you doing?"
You can see the thought process on their face: Oh, she slept with a Black guy - easy peasy - she'll sleep with any of us!
It's infuriating. Especially when the guy gets pissed that I ignore him. People in general hate to have their stereotypes fail to live up.
I'm resting. The blog posts you will see this week are post dated. I created them at an earlier time to be posted this week.
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I swear, some people watch too many movies like Monster's Ball.
For real. LOL I busted out laughing when I saw this.It's true, now every white man thinks he can pull a Halle
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I hope you get well
Thank you :)
I guess you couldn't help but get in another anti-white man post before you go. Does your husband read your blog. How could he be married to a woman like you? Why would you have a baby with a white man, since you despise us so much? You're so mean-spirited and insulting.
Yes that is it, I had to get another anti-white man post in. I guess my husband hates himself because he does read my blog. He understands I'm talking about old skank men, and not him. He is neither old or skanky, and he didn't approach me with the expectations of giving him a blow job in his car all because he offered to by my white chocolate mocha at Starbucks.
I don't despise white men, and you're right I am mean spirited and insulting, but to those who are mean spirited and insulting and have no interest in real discourse about interracial relationships or race.
Dark Moon you nailed it. My favorites are the overweight white men on dating sites in their 50's & 60's looking for thin black women from 20-40. I'm supposed to be flattered that your divorced broke bitter old ass has finally "realized" the beauty of bw. I'll pass!
Ha-ha. This is funny when it happens. The first time I was 18 waiting for my Mom to pick me up and this old man (not 18 year old thinking a 30 year old is old, he was literally late 60's early 70's) asked me if I wanted to marry a rich old man and live in fantasy land. I was a never been kissed vigin and was scandalized, scandalized! I did laugh though at the time. Too crazy.
Anon 6:43pm. STFU. Or as Flo on Alice used to say "KISS MY (or Sids) GRITS" Look in the mirror and you will see your comments reflected in yourself. See just 'cause Sid can't fight don't mean I can't!
Actually, this could have just been titled..."Dear Sean Penn"
Hahahaha at the Sean Penn comment. Good one.
How's the lavender man? Did he make any racist comments lately?
Co-sign Revolution. Sean Penn is gross looking to me. Jessica White can do so much better. Love the post Siditty so true.
This is beyond true. I am 26 and I work in manhattan and I was waiting for the elevator. Standing there was a white guy in his late 50's he begins to ask me about the restaurants in the area. I'm thinking its just small talk.....then he says to me that his ex girlfriend was black!!! I told him thats great! thank gosh the elevator came!
I am not only tired of old white wrinkled men who claim to be 38 but really look 58 trying to date me, but I am also tired of the illiterate non english speaking ass white guys trying to talk to me. GO AWAY. I think they believe because I am black that I should be grateful for their acknowledgement of me, that I should overlook the fact that they talk like they only have a third grade education. Plus most all the white guys I have met over 40 have racial hangups. I would end up murdering them in their sleep.
Revolution says,
Actually, this could have just been titled..."Dear Sean Penn"
laromana says,
I totally agree with you. Sean Penn is a cheater/beater who NEVER considered SERIOUSLY (OPENLY) dating or marrying a BW when he was in his PRIME. I wish Jessica White (and other QUALITY BW of ANY AGE) would kick these type of LOSER WM to the curb.
If they didn't think BW were GOOD ENOUGH to DATE/MARRY in the PAST, they don't DESERVE to be in ANY relationships with ANY BW in the PRESENT.
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